Who should attend Hold Me Tight® Retreats?
These retreats are for couples in all stages of their relationship whether they are married, not married, contemplating separation or divorce or have been separated. It is an excellent investment at any stage of your relationship. What is required is that each partner is committed to working on the relationship (they are united in their goal) and that there are not complicating factors such as addiction, ongoing affairs, and domestic violence which require more specific treatment and continued support.
Is the retreat open to LGBT couples?
Absolutely. This relationship is inclusive of all couples. All relationships are about attachment needs and longings which is independent of sexual orientation. All relationships develop unconscious patterns that are disruptive to the relationship. All relationships benefit from emotional connection and the ability to repair and heal hurts. And all relationships profit from knowing how to solve issues/problems as they arise. All of these aspects of a love relationship are independent of sexual orientation.
How do I register?
Registration is easy. Each page of this website has a red registration button. Simply click the button and complete the requesting information, make your payment and then you'll receive a confirmation email indicating you are registered. You can also go to the couples retreat page, click here and register there using the red register button.
What is the cost of the Hold Me Tight® Retreat?
The retreat cost is $795 per couple (2 people) which includes each person's workbook, the presentation, assistance in completing the exercises, lunches and snacks.
What will happen at the retreat?
Hold Me Tight® Retreats are multi-faceted retreats with the goal of sharing the science of love with couples and the strategies learned over 30 plus years of scientific research (including 3 research studies specifically on the Hold Me Tight® program) that are proven to increase relationship satisfaction. There will be a power point presentation with video clips explicating major points, discussion, questions and answers, couples’ exercises focusing on each couple's own relationship (assistance available), private partner sharing within the couple, and group sharing (by those comfortable in doing so) of their experience completing and sharing the exercise. Couples often report the sharing of the exercise experience is very helpful to understanding their own situation. Following the completion of all 7 Hold Me Tight® conversations, there will be a closing exercise and resources will be given to couples to further help them with their relationship.
What do we need to do to prepare for the retreat?
The only preparation for the retreat is that each partner is ready and willing to work on the relationship and that the couple is aligned in their desire to work to improve the relationship. We have found those couples who read the Hold Me Tight book grasp the concepts more quickly and more easily complete the exercises. In addition, these couples tend to make more progress.
How should we dress for the 2 days?
We want you to be comfortable and be able to listen, learn and grow in knowledge about your relationship and in skills to increase the positive direction of your relationship; therefore, we recommend you dress in comfortable clothes. We also suggest layers so that you are comfortable as the room temperature can vary.
How many couples will be in the workshop?
There is a minimum of 5 and a maximum of 10 couples.
Will we have to talk in front of the group?
There is no requirement to talk in front of the group or to share your thoughts, concerns or experiences with the group. However, we know that the more engaged a person is in the process of learning the more one gains from the experience. Confidentiality issues are addressed at the beginning of the retreat to create a safe, trusting environment in which to share and learn. To hear what past participants have said about safety in the group, please click TESTIMONIALS.
Can I attend the retreat alone, if my partner will not attend?
Of course. While it's ideal to have both partners attend the retreat, there are times when this is not possible for a variety of reasons. Your solo experience will differ from the couple's experience in only two ways. First, on the exercise portions of the retreat, you and your partner will not have the opportunity to be assisted in the exercises though you will. You will not have the benefit of sharing your work with your partner, having your partner share his/her work with you and discussing it together. Secondly, your partner will not be learning the science of love nor have the learning experience you will have.
If I am single and not in a relationship, can I attend the retreat?
Yes. Learning about love through a Hold Me Tight® retreat helps you know what makes love work and what destroys love. Additionally, it's an opportunity for you to examine past relationships to learn what went wrong and how with new learning you can make changes in future relationships to keep the positive and to make repairs when the inevitable hurts occur.
I am a vegetarian; will I be able to follow my diet during the 2 days?
We are happy to accommodate dietary requests when received at least 7 days ahead of the first day of the retreat. Email Wanda by completing the contact page.
Will we have an opportunity to speak with Wanda before the group?
Yes. Wanda likes to "meet" you via phone prior to the workshop to get to know you and your relationship so that she and her assistants can better help you in the retreat process. Wanda will email or phone you to set and appointment time to talk for about 20 minutes.
Do we have to be in couple's therapy to participate in the retreat?
No. It is not a requirement. Some couples who are in therapy come to the retreat, especially when they or their therapist feel they are stuck. They return to therapy and the therapists report the couples have made significant advances and are able to continue the process of healing their relationship. The retreat is also a great beginning step to initiate therapy with an Emotionally Focused Therapist. There are a number of attendees who are not in therapy when they attend. Often, it's these couples who ask for referrals to therapist following the retreat so that they can maintain the gains and momentum they've started in the retreat.
What is your refund policy?
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My questions are not answered here, what do I do?
We are happy to answer all of your questions to help you decide whether or not the Hold Me Tight® retreat is right for you. Simply complete the contact page, and I will happy reply to your specific question.